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Helping Kids Cope with Illness and Hospitalization
Courtney Hillyard, BS, CCLS
Having a child who is frequently in and out of the hospital is extremely stressful—not only for the patient, but for the entire family. As a child life specialist, I work in the hospital setting to help reduce this stress and provide families with more positive ways of coping with their emotionally intense circumstances. I partner with patients, families, and hospital staff to advocate for the sick child, helping to serve his or her best interests through play, education, and support.
I recognize, too, that even when patients and families are not in the hospital there are challenges at home related to the child’s specialized care, such as medications, tube feedings, catheter care, and other complex tasks. Listed below are developmental considerations for different age groups, as well as some distraction and relaxation strategies you may find helpful when your child is hospitalized or not feeling well.
Infants/Toddlers (0–3 years)
Preschoolers (3–5 years)
School-Age (6–11 years)
Adolescents (12 years and up)
Having a child admitted to the hospital or sick at home during a holiday can create havoc for families. Remember that most traditions that are celebrated at home can be incorporated into the hospital environment (i.e., bring a Thanksgiving meal to a child’s hospital room or decorate his room for the holiday you are celebrating). Even though you may have to modify certain traditions, try to include the sick child in whatever way you can. Provide opportunities he can look forward to.
At Children’s Memorial Hospital, we have a playroom space with special activities and regular play programming that occur on a daily basis. These provide unique opportunities patients and their families can look forward to and participate in. If your hospital does not have these resources, pack a special hospital bag for your child with games, activities, and some of her favorite things to make the experience more familiar and positive.
It’s a good idea to keep some special toys that your child can only use during procedures or dressing changes. These toys will continue to capture the child’s attention, unlike everyday toys he is used to seeing and playing with.
Importance of Routine
Remember that children of all ages benefit from a consistent caregiver presence and a familiar routine. Several patients with whom I have worked have benefited from having a visual schedule posted in their bedroom or hospital room so they can anticipate upcoming medical events, when to take medicine and fun activities, as well as activities of daily living, like bathing and teeth brushing. Have the child participate in making this schedule, including items she feels are important, and allow her to decorate it with photos and stickers.
Continue to set limits with your child so his behavior does not get out of control. Again, children need structure and guidance to thrive. They depend on their caregiver(s) to provide clear expectations for them in a caring and loving way.
Provide clear choices when they exist, but be clear that with certain tasks the child’s choices are limited. With taking of medication, for example, a choice of whether or not your child takes it does not exist. You can, however, incorporate choices into the taking of medication by allowing her to choose how she wants to take her medication or what she wants to take it with (i.e., spoon or syringe, juice or water). The choice can even be to choose what activity she wants to engage in once she has been cooperative in taking her medicine (i.e., watching a favorite cartoon, doing a project, reading a book).
Expression of Feelings
As caregivers, you should speak honestly and openly with your children. Research has proven that it is better for children to know what is happening versus dealing with feelings associated with fear of the unknown. Some caregiver(s) think it is best to express their own emotions in private. At times, it is good to show kids that adults are only human too! It gives children permission to more openly share their feelings in front of others instead of keeping them all bottled up inside.
Keep in mind that, depending on the age of your sick child, he may want to express his feelings in other ways besides just talking to a trusted adult. Oftentimes kids I work with will relay that they don’t want to share their feelings with their caregiver(s) because they don’t want to make them more upset or burden them with their feelings.
Peer support groups are a great outlet, especially for school-agers and adolescents. Through peer support groups they can come to real- ize they aren’t the only ones dealing with a difficult time or a chronic illness—or the only ones with tubes or catheters. Encourage your child to keep a journal where she can write about her feelings or use art, poetry, or music as an expressive outlet.
For younger children, you can read a feelings book with them, which may help them to identify the feelings they are having. It can often be confusing for them to verbalize their feelings. So frequently, because they don’t know or understand why they are feeling a certain way, they will act out as a way to gain positive attention. Caregivers may have difficulty pinpointing the root cause of the behaviors and may respond in a negative way, which is not what the child is hoping for. Provide verbal reassurance and let the child know that what he is going through is really hard and that you are there to help him get through it. Lots of hugs and kisses are good, too!
If your child is opting to act out physically, make sure you let her know it is not okay to hurt herself or anyone else. If she wants to punch something because she is very angry, provide a pillow as a punching bag or give her play dough to pound as a more positive way of dealing with aggressive feelings.
In closing, caring for a child with specialized needs can be demanding and draining. Remember to take time for yourself, ask others for help, and seek out support services.
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